Posted by: Laura | January 3, 2010

The rules of the game … stick it out

He was good … too good.

It was nearly impossible to catch him. So we ganged up on him.  Maybe I should have felt a little bad fooling a five-year old boy but I didn’t.  Dang it … he was taking the fun of hide and seek.

Jaron had outrun each of us … adult and child … and was perched on the horse gate. One move towards him and he jumped off and sped into Speedy Gonzalez action into the field. Running after him only pushed him further away. How could someone so small run so fast?

So we all banded together (three adults and four children) and made a plan. McKenna hid behind the open barn door and when I spotted Jaron, I walked into the building pretending to yell to McKenna Jaron’s location. Sarah would do the same.

Lulled into a false sense of security, Jaron inched closer to base – the picnic table just outside the barn door.  He inched forward, stopped, poised to run, watched our faces, looked around, inched forwarded, stopped, poised to run, watched our actions, looked around and then darted towards base.

McKenna caught him half way.

Hooray! The game was over.

You may ask why didn’t we just declare the game over earlier and leave the boy in the fields, but we wouldn’t take defeat nor would Jaron ever accept that the game was over until there was the expected conclusion. It wasn’t over until everyone was caught. Period.

Just because someone was outrunning or outwitting us didn’t mean we could just give up. We had to honor the accepted rules of the game. Heaven knows I get a project or two that I would love to abandon because it stops being fun. But I know the expected result and conclusion so I keep running. And sometimes I ask for some help. In all cases, I never regret sticking it out to the end.

May 2010 be full of fulfilling projects and a super-size dose of stick-to-it’ism.

Jaron was too good at hide and seek ... impossible to catch

Posted by: Laura | December 24, 2009

Lookin’ good: Laura’s theories in travel apparel

She touched my arm as I walked past … fresh off the airplane and into the holiday-decorated Louisville, Kentucky airport terminal.

I paused my purposeful strut and turned to meet her glance.

“It’s so nice to see someone in high heels and dressed up to fly nowadays.”

I broke in a wide smile and tipped my blonde-haired head.

“Well, thank you.”

Chalk up another one for Laura’s theories … well … two of Laura’s theories.

Theory 1: If you dress according to the way you want to feel, others will view you in that way, too. So I dress how I want to feel … and that’s usually pretty and polished.

Theory 2: People appreciate other people making an effort to look nice in public. Air travel is not so uncomfortable to warrant wearing pajama bottoms and slippers.

While flying, we encounter thousands of people in a period of hours. How many times do we get to make a positive impression on that number of people in that short space of time?

So next time you dress to travel … dress to impress.

Posted by: Laura | December 17, 2009

Unsolicited appearance appraisals = care

“Ahh … You’ve rolled off a couple of pounds.”

I turn my head and greet her with a smile and “Ah! Thank you for noticing!”

Her wrinkled dark face spread into a warm smile.

With the same ratty straw hat perched on her head, she lounges in the same tired low chair next to a clothes line taunt between two palm trees. Pinned on the line are characterless Antigua t-shirts and colorful beach wraps (made anywhere but Antigua). Displayed in organized rows on a plastic table below the line, are shell necklaces and stone bracelets of unknown origin. That sandy spot of Dickenson Bay Beach outside Coconut Grove restaurant is her turf.  And I think it’s been since Columbus first pointed to the island.

On my second trip to Antigua in early 2006, she wooed me with her coo of “Come and see, darling” and grandmother-like authority, so I sauntered over to her table and line of wares. And since that first and only purchase of a bracelet almost three years ago, I can set the moon and stars on her consistent and unsolicited appraisals on my appearance every time I pass by.

“I see you’ve put on some roundness.”

“You need some colour.”

“You look pretty today.”

“Mmmm … you’ve still got that backside.”

Some people may think it rude. I think it’s sweet.  If she didn’t care, she wouldn’t say anything. Sure her comments aren’t always flattering but they are honest expression of her opinion. Why does she care? It’s not the money I spend with her (for that figure is very low, though my parents bought t-shirts for their large brood of grandkids from her), it’s the investment of mental energy and acknowledgment. People want to be remembered … to feel like we have a mark in someone else’s life.

I appreciate her noticing me and the differences since my previous appearance.

And I appreciate that fact that I no longer need a bathroom scale.  After all … I’ve got a live person providing verbal benchmarking on the progression of my physical shape.

Posted by: Laura | December 7, 2009

Southern charm earns eyes and ears

Every Sunday, I teach a class of 14 to 17 year-old West Indian students in Port of Spain, Trinidad. Not surprising, they aren’t particularly the most attentive bunch and so I am always brainstorming ideas to help keep their eyes and ears focused on me. This Sunday, before I could implement any of my ideas, one girl volunteered, “Laura, would you turn on your southern accent in class today?”

Lightblub!

“Well … if I speak to you in my home accent, would you listen to me during the entire class?”

My answer was chorus of yeahs and simultaneous head nods.

“OK … raise your right hand and repeat after me. I promise to listen the entire class if Laura speaks in her southern accent during the entire class.”

All 10 hands were raised and voice repeated my statement.

“Alriiiight ya’ll, let’s get staaaaarted.”

After a few shocked giggles (and my answer to why the accent is turned off most of the time) we started the class and the group sure ‘nuf remained true to its commitment.

I walked away from class with a few giggles of my own. Something as simple as showing them a little bit of “me” – something unique – was all it took to win over the tough crowd. It’s amazing what a dose of genuine self will do.

Posted by: Laura | November 26, 2009

These are a few of my favorite things …

My family and friends top the list but my I’m-thankful-for list also includes the following things:

  • My neighborhood Trinidad Hi-Lo carries “fresh” skim milk and not just that reconstituted boxed stuff … I can pour a big glass and enjoy without wondering about the odd milk color!
  • The Big Bang Theory … seriously hilarious and witty.
  • Acquisition … for all that music I spontaneously want right away.
  • A dedicated parking spot at Antilia’s office … parking in St. James, Trinidad is a killer.
  • The After 6 football group … it includes a running trainer AND men who tease me like they’re my brothers.
  • Ladies dinners … I’m singing the theme song to “Girlfriends” right now.
  • Built up AAdvantage miles … they paid for many trips this year.
  • Delta’s Air Lines’ “Buy with Miles” option … so easy and convenient!
  • Pasminas … forever on my list of favorite things (and always a good gift, my friends)
  • Nice Caribbean Airlines staff … thanks for all those “upgrades” to business class.
  • Altina … I couldn’t have kept everything in order in Antigua without her.
  • A savings account … it allowed me to take time to regroup without working full-time.
  • A fridge with filtered water … I just got plain tired of buying bottled water.
  • Free wifi in Caribbean airports … now the U.S. has to catch up!
  • Skype … my connection to my international family and friends.
  • Pretty ribbons … they make me happy.

    - Laura

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